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my teenagers taught me something again…

pokemon boystonite i had a house full of teenagers.

jackson had a few friends. (freshmen)

quint had a few friends. (juniors)

as quint and his friends were leaving, i heard a symphony of “love you’s” going back and forth among the groups.

i can’t seem to capture in words how much joy this brings me. first of all, because they have these people in their daily lives that they love so much and love them back.

most of all, because WHO DOES THAT? i can’t imagine that this is a common thing. and it wasn’t the first time. i am so grateful that they have the comfort and confidence in themselves and in their relationships that they are willing to put themselves out there, time and time again.

they have created an environment where love is part of their vernacular. and even better, they don’t just say it, they do it. you can tell that they enjoy each other, they have fun together.

grown ups… learn something from this example. learn to say the things that people need to hear and need to know. don’t assume that people know that they matter to you – tell them.

are you as good at this as my teenagers? i don’t know about you, but i’m gonna take a page out of their playbook…

love you.

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@samluce is highly tweetable and full of stuff i don’t want you to miss

@rbcwrites and @samluce #illumin8

@rbcwrites and @samluce #illumin8

i would’ve tweeted all day yesterday the things that sam was saying, but it seemed excessive, so i decided to blog about it instead… this blog will be part 1 – i’ll cover his second talk in a second email.

he was talking about what parents need from volunteers, what volunteers need from parents and what kids need from all of us…and i’ll get to that… but first, the tweetables.

•kids are ego-destroyers

•we don’t look at our ministry in weeks and months, but in years and decades.

•we can tell we have a successful kids ministry when we have a healthy youth ministry

•my son, is a heart, with a boy inside

•don’t force them to make a decision, rub against the pallette of their spirit, so that Jesus becomes beautiful to them

•make Jesus beautiful, make him everything to them. when he’s beautiful to us, he will be beautiful to them.

•he has done the work for us, so out of gratitude for this… we serve

•i am anti-craft – it started the day we did a bead craft

•my mom always said, rejoice when no one thanks you, the applause of heaven is so much bigger

•as you grow, you can’t know every kid, but you can know every volunteer, and they can know every kid

•i don’t want to be the only voice for Jesus in a child’s life, I want to be the echo of your parent voice.

•an army of small group leaders can do more than 1 kids pastor.


parents want from volunteers:

-a safe place to bring thier kids, proactive culture increases safety. being “helpful” makes ill-intentioned people uncomfortable…

-to know you know their kid

-to know they are not alone. the enemy wants us to feel alone and get us to believe things that are not true.

volunteers want from parents:

-show up early and often (this teaches the importance of the local church and value of community – we were made for this)

-to know that you notice and care that they are caring for your kid

-see yourself as the primary spiritual leader in your child’s life

what kids need from both of us:

-to leverage your time, make the most of the (volunteers) 40 hours you have at church, and (parents) the 3000 that you have at home

-avoid a culture of co-dependence (parents depend on the church to do everything for their kids spiritually, and we have acquiesced to them)

-model christ and help resource the parents (don’t just answer everything, help them find where the answers are)

-they need a hero to point them to the ultimate hero – God gave us his son so our sons can have hope.

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something i bet you’ve never seen before

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my kids could not be cooler. we were driving around with 1 hour to kill and on our way to an outdoor mall when quint saw a sign… for an art gallery. he said, “let’s go!” i drove past it thinking that the others wouldn’t be as interested as quint and i would be. he said “why did  you pass it? let’s turn around” so i did. i said, ok, if it costs more than $2 each we’re not going to go. we went in… and it was free to the public. boom. let’s stay! we looked at some of the art, and the guide told us no touching except for one room where you can touch the sculptures… we looked at about 20 paintings… then somebody, i’m not sure which one, started to act out the paintings/etchings. then they would run to the next one and act out the scene… then the next one.. and the next one… quickly the museum guards began to circle us, to make sure we weren’t touching anything because we were having way too much fun. i can’t imagine that they’ve ever had 4 kids, ages 7-15, laughing and having a blast walking through their museum. but that’s what my kids were doing. the pictures tell the story best. here’s what i would tell you… teach your kids to love art. teach them to interact with art. since when was an art museum as interactive as this experience was… so proud of these four people that i get to parent, teach, learn from, and love to pieces. i never enjoyed an art museum more.

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