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@samluce is highly tweetable and full of stuff i don’t want you to miss

@rbcwrites and @samluce #illumin8

@rbcwrites and @samluce #illumin8

i would’ve tweeted all day yesterday the things that sam was saying, but it seemed excessive, so i decided to blog about it instead… this blog will be part 1 – i’ll cover his second talk in a second email.

he was talking about what parents need from volunteers, what volunteers need from parents and what kids need from all of us…and i’ll get to that… but first, the tweetables.

•kids are ego-destroyers

•we don’t look at our ministry in weeks and months, but in years and decades.

•we can tell we have a successful kids ministry when we have a healthy youth ministry

•my son, is a heart, with a boy inside

•don’t force them to make a decision, rub against the pallette of their spirit, so that Jesus becomes beautiful to them

•make Jesus beautiful, make him everything to them. when he’s beautiful to us, he will be beautiful to them.

•he has done the work for us, so out of gratitude for this… we serve

•i am anti-craft – it started the day we did a bead craft

•my mom always said, rejoice when no one thanks you, the applause of heaven is so much bigger

•as you grow, you can’t know every kid, but you can know every volunteer, and they can know every kid

•i don’t want to be the only voice for Jesus in a child’s life, I want to be the echo of your parent voice.

•an army of small group leaders can do more than 1 kids pastor.


parents want from volunteers:

-a safe place to bring thier kids, proactive culture increases safety. being “helpful” makes ill-intentioned people uncomfortable…

-to know you know their kid

-to know they are not alone. the enemy wants us to feel alone and get us to believe things that are not true.

volunteers want from parents:

-show up early and often (this teaches the importance of the local church and value of community – we were made for this)

-to know that you notice and care that they are caring for your kid

-see yourself as the primary spiritual leader in your child’s life

what kids need from both of us:

-to leverage your time, make the most of the (volunteers) 40 hours you have at church, and (parents) the 3000 that you have at home

-avoid a culture of co-dependence (parents depend on the church to do everything for their kids spiritually, and we have acquiesced to them)

-model christ and help resource the parents (don’t just answer everything, help them find where the answers are)

-they need a hero to point them to the ultimate hero – God gave us his son so our sons can have hope.

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hair is not a moral issue…

dwight with quint... i interviewed dwight's parents... he's an excellent man

i know some outstanding godly men… i interviewed their moms and dads about the things they did right … and the things they think they did wrong.

i’m dying to share all of what they shared, but i haven’t quite wrapped my mind entirely around all of the things i’ve learned… i have notes, and i’m working on it. i promise i will share what i learned with you. for a teaser… here are a few things that the parents all agreed on:

1 – pray, pray, pray.

2- keep ’em busy.

3- pay attention to the friends your kids are choosing.

4-make sure they are involved at church… this can’t be stressed enough, apparently.

1 Corinthians 12:25
The way God designed our bodies is a model for understanding our lives together as a church: every part dependent on every other part, the parts we mention and the parts we don’t, the parts we see and the parts we don’t. If one part hurts, every other part is involved in the hurt, and in the healing. If one part flourishes, every other part enters into the exuberance.

so, you might be wondering what i mean by “hair is not a moral issue”… i’ll tell you what it means… this was from mr. gallion (bob). essentially, things like appearance and wardrobe choices are not moral issues, not enough to lose your relationship with your kid over… save your tough love for the big things-character issues, behavior choices, things of true consequence…makes great sense, huh?

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